Feelings from the Heart

So tonight I heard from Ben in Indiana. He basically told me that he wasn't going to give us a chance because he wouldn't like the distance. Because I'm living in Arkansas I will never be able to find anyone to date and be happy with. Everytime I've met someone from AR they basically don't know or understand how life, money, and relationships work. They would rather live vicariously through other people instead of having their own lives. I'm sick to death of it! I'm about ready to just scream my head off! Maybe in order for me to understand why I'm alone, I should take this time to look at my life.
This is what Ben told me. Basically "I want to meet you but also am scared to meet you because if we meet and I like you the distance will bother me. If I meet you and we don't get along, then it doesn't matter. We can be friends. Because my heart isn't in this, I've been meeting other people in Indy. I've met someone that actually reminds me a little of you and am enjoying talking with them." SO BASICALLY he led me on. My heart hurts because I was giving all my feelings to someone who didn't give a shit about me. I don't know whether to be happy that he's not interested or realize that I got too attached before we even met. I guess I'm just a stupid Arkansas 28 year old boy that doesn't know anything... why can't I be happy with someone? Why must I always wear my heart on my sleeves only to get ripped apart and trampled over... Life sucks!